Goodbye Princess

It’s been another rough week in our household. Our baby girl, Abby, took another bad turn. We’ve been down this path so many times now and there is no mistaking the inevitable destination. After a lot of soul searching and tears we decided to end her pain (and ours) before things got any worse. She was already at the point where she couldn’t walk more than a few steps without falling and she almost never went in her box. She had moments of happiness undoubtedly, but she would mostly just lay around looking miserable. She was never an active cat, but she used to have this spark about her. That spark was gone now, except for the times I was on the floor with her. Giving her a good scritch to the head or back (never lower than that - her arthritis wouldn’t allow it) usually perked her up… but I couldn’t spend all day on the floor.
We decided to ask our vet to come to our house to do the deed and thankfully he agreed. Neither of us wanted our last memories of Abby to be her freaked out and panicking at the vets. By doing it here we should have had a calm, peaceful Abby to remember. By having a date to look to, it also gave us some time to make memorabilia of her. The video camera has been out, snapping short clips of her whenever I catch her in a good spot. On Sunday we made a concrete tile with her paw prints, and also prepared a plaster kit and ink stamp. Given how stressed she got for the concrete, we decided to leave the plaster for after she had passed on - there was no sense making her last few days a string of unpleasant experiences. Instead, we pampered her as best we could while upping her medication dosage to a level that would harm her long term. It perked her up a little bit, but she was still not the same cat we knew and loved…
The downside to this route is that we had almost a week to agonize over our decision. I can’t speak for Lexy, but I would second guess myself every hour or so. Crying usually followed, but after I calmed down I would realize that we were doing the right thing. Keeping her going in this state is selfish. As much as I love her (and boy do I ever love that smelly little butterball) I knew it was time.
So, another member of the family is gone. This year has been so incredibly difficult…
I wrote the above a few days ago knowing that I wouldn’t be able to write it today. She went peacefully, without being scared, in the arms of her people. We miss you already Abby and we love you so very much. Goodbye.
Princess Crabs

UPDATE: Stubby's surgery scheduled for July 2nd!

Because of the overwhelmingly positive response and generosity of family and friends old and new, and the fact that we are thisclose to reaching our goal, I've scheduled Stubby's surgery for July 2nd!

So, the last day to donate via PayPal will be June 27th! Donations made directly to the vet's office can be made all the way through July 2nd.

If you've already donated, THANK YOU!!

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UPDATE: Reaching out for support...

What a wonderful day today! Not only did Dr. Crocker's office agree to accept donations on Stubby's behalf (see my earlier posts for that info), we raised $250! Much of that $250 came from the support of the LJ communities, so from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!!

Since the fundraising is going so well (we're only about $250 short of our goal!), I was able to go ahead and schedule Stubby's surgery for July 2nd. He's having his bloodwork done next week, and I'm hopeful that we'll have a reason for why his teeth are in such bad shape.

I'm very grateful for and encouraged by all the positive feedback I've gotten...even the negative feedback has helped me to improve the way I'm doing things, so that's awesome.

So, if you've already donated, THANK YOU!! And if you haven't, please consider it...if you're unable to, prayers and well-wishes are accepted, too :-)

♥ Ria
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UPDATE: Reaching out for support...

I recently posted a fund-raising request for donations to help cover the costs of extensive dental surgery for Stubby, a sweet little guy I'm fostering. Several folks suggested that they'd feel more comfortable donating directly to the vet's office than to me, which I understand completely. I thought that was a great idea, so I contacted my vet's office today, and they've graciously agreed to accept check and/or credit/debit card donations on Stubby's behalf.

Checks can be made payable to Bigger Road Veterinary Clinic. Please be sure to reference 'Account #30919' in the check's memo field.

Credit/debit card donations can be taken over the phone by calling (937) 435-3262. Again, please be sure to reference Account #30919. Their mailing address is:

Bigger Road Veterinary Clinic
5655 Bigger Rd.
Kettering, OH 45440

Thank you so much to those who have already donated!

Ria Kapluck

Reaching out for support...

My name is Ria, and I've created an LJ on behalf of a sweet little guy named Stubby. A friend asked me to provide a temporary home for Stubby, as well as try to find him a forever home, and I was happy to oblige. I knew that Stubby hadn't been to the vet in a few years, and would need to be caught up on his vaccinations and receive a clean bill of health before I could find a forever home for him.

However, when I took him in for his exam, the doctor determined that his oral health was deteriorated to such an extent that Stubby would need to undergo extensive surgery to extract all of his teeth and repair the damage to his gums and jawbones. As you can imagine, that kind of surgery is very, very expensive, and I if I had the means to pay for it on my own, I would do so in a heartbeat. That's where you come in...

I've created a website called, where you can learn a little more about Stubby as well as make donations in any amount to help cover the cost of the surgery. For every $5 donated, you'll receive an entry in the Thank You Raffle for a chance at the Grand Prize of a $50 SuperCertificate to

My fundraising goal is $1,200...any money raised that exceeds the goal amount will be donated to SICSA (The Society for the Improvement of Conditions for Stray Animals, which is a wonderful no-kill shelter here in Kettering, Ohio.

I'm asking for your support as I try to improve Stubby's life. Several people have told me to "just put him down, it's not worth it" far as I'm concerned, this is not an option. He's only four years old, and with this surgery, will lead a long, happy life. Please consider donating...even $1 will help! Even if all you can do is share the website with your friends and fellow animal lovers, I would greatly appreciate it.

Thank you for your time, and thank you for all the work you do to help our furry friends! If you have any questions, please feel free to email me.

I want to make it very clear that my one and only goal in creating the website and corresponding LJ is to raise the funds necessary to get Stubby on the road to health and happiness. I am not affiliated with any shelter or rescue group...I'm just one person trying to make a difference in one animal's life, in any way that I can.

Ria K.

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